For those of you that don’t know, I recently turned 30. My birthday is nestled right in between my kids birthdays in the busiest birthday month in my family. And I don’t mean just my immediate family. I mean cousins, nieces, in laws, April is very busy. But with my immediate family aside from myself, Oliver turned 4 this year and Genevieve is about to turn 1. As my husband puts it “April is a very expensive month here”.
To start off April, Oliver turned 4 and had his first birthday party where we invited friends he made in preschool instead of just friends whose parents we knew who also have kids the same age. I had some serious party anxiety about the whole thing. I worried that no one would come. I worried that people would just drop off their kids and leave me in charge of their 4 year olds at the park. I worried that people would think I only invited the whole class as a fish for more gifts. None of that happened. A good amount of kids came and their parents stayed and he got a few gifts and it was perfect. Maybe I’ll do a post all about kid parties some day. But not today. Today I want to talk about my birthday.
Lots of people around me have been turning 30, not shocking I know. But there’s been a real mixed basket of emotions around it. Some people dread it. Some people throw funerals for their 20s like their youth is dead. Some people embrace it. Some people ignore it. I chose to embrace it. I feel like I haven’t really acknowledged my age since I turned 21. After 21 birthdays are just kind of birthdays, no real milestones year to year. But 30, that’s a milestone. I’ve thought about it a lot over the last few months and I’ve come to realize that I am probably in the best place I’ve ever been in my life. I’ve got an amazing husband, two beautiful kids, a home of our own and I get to live the dream I’ve always wanted where I get to stay home. Looking forward I think the next chapter of my life is going to be great. But as some of you loyal readers may realize, I quite like looking back and seeing what I can learn from myself. So, I wanted to take a look back on the last 10 years and see what I could tell my 20 year old self to maybe make my 20’s a little better or just things I’ve come to know in the last 10 years.
- Don’t be afraid to try new things, you might just find something you like.
- Even though you get clean in the shower, you still need to clean the shower. Often.
- Clean one part of your house each day really well, it will keep your house clean overall.
- Embrace your pre-baby body, it’s going to change.
- Clean out your fridge once a week, it only takes 10 minutes and saves you a lot of gross tupperware openings.
- Make time to spend time with your family, they’re the ones who will always be in your life.
- Be clear about what you expect from your partner, they may not know if you don’t tell them.
- Travel as much as you can, and realize that kids don’t stop you from traveling.
- Be silly with your kids, and if other adults see it it really doesn’t matter.
- Bring a snack with you. It doesn’t matter where you’re going, take a snack.
- Enter all the free giveaways, you aren’t going to win if you don’t enter.
- It’s okay to get rid of things.
- Don’t let people convince you not to do something you want to try without trying it for yourself.
- You deserve new clothes every 5 years, but get rid of old ones too.
- Take pictures and get them printed.
- Have your important documents in one place and easy to grab in a hurry.
- It’s totally fine to step away and collect yourself.
- Get outside as much as you can.
- Pay off your credit card balances each month.
- Don’t be afraid to speak up when needed.
- Be present with friends and family, not on your phone.
- The only way to learn to speak a new language is to speak it. Don’t be afraid of sounding stupid, most people are going to be helpful not hurtful.
- Learn how to fold a fitted sheet, it’s really not as hard as you think.
- Don’t be intimidated by hard work, you’re much more capable than you think.
- It’s okay to spend a little more on quality pieces of clothes.
- If you’re thinking about stopping in to see that friend or family member, do it. You might not get another opportunity.
- One sided relationships don’t work.
- Be honest with people you love.
- The sooner you can figure out who you are and get comfortable with yourself, the happier you will be.
So there you go. An insight into things I’ve learned or embraced over the last decade. Some were harder to learn than others, some I’m still working on. Maybe some you can apply to your own life. Maybe some don’t make any sense because they don’t apply to your life. Either way I hope you enjoyed my list of advice for my 20 year old self. There’s only a few things that I can think back on that I wish I had done differently, so in my book I’m going to call my 20’s a pretty good decade. But I’m sure excited about what the 30’s have for me.
Now that I have had some time to focus on myself, I’m off to work on details for my baby girl’s first birthday, because the break for a mom is only momentary.